Perhaps Stephanie needs to raise the plight of expat women in China by taking expat men down a peg.
After all, she did write “[expat women] have to accept their singleness or grow old waiting for white guys to come to their senses”.
We have met each other in person for three times since then.
He calls me every day, most of the time twice per day. He said we should meet in person again in August this year to see if we are the right one for each other.
Not for American woman, who believes that a romantic relationship should balance the needs of both partners.
This is one reason some American men look for a Chinese partner.
If he is interested in a Chinese woman, it is often for the reason I mentioned above.
To choose the 'right' partner, he may be also in contact with other Chinese women, visiting them, calling them.
According to Forbes magazine, 11 of the 20 richest self-made women in the world are Chinese, and now 19 per cent of Chinese women in management positions are CEOs, the second highest percentage worldwide (after Thailand’s 30 per cent).
Stephanie and other expat woman can’t help but rail against the sexual tirade of expat men who have risen to the top of the dating heap in Shanghai. One night stands might be fun for the first several years in China, but the constant merry-go-round of meaningless flings here gets old pretty fast.
Human beings are hardwired to eventually make emotional connections, and considering the cultural clashes that many mixed couples seem to encounter – whenever you see a mixed couple in public they always look miserable – it’s inevitable that most foreign males in China will ultimately prefer to marry a white woman than go native.
If we get along, then he will apply for the visa for me.
To be honest, sometimes I am not happy being with him, but I don't want to lose him. Dear Danqi, What a Chinese woman should pay attention to when she is dating an American man or any man, is how she feels when she is with him, talking with him on the phone or through the Internet. Or, do you feel that your thoughts and opinions are not important, that he is not that interested in getting to know you or that he gets angry quickly when you express thoughts and ideas which are different then his?