Again, this is difficult to do with services that prohibit you from providing ample information about yourself, so the next best thing is to be honest with yourself and the person you're talking to — whether it's within the first message or on the first date.
And that means being honest about what you look like.
One 24-year-old woman I spoke to told me she likes Bumble better than any other dating app, for a multitude of reasons — in part because it eliminates the fear of seedy messages from the opposite sex, and it puts the onus on the woman to go for what she wants.
The woman also told me she liked the 24-hour window to respond (connections disappear if there's no conversation), which remedies the radio-silence problem that's practically synonymous with the online-dating services of yore.
Coffee Meets Bagel aims to rectify this problem by forcing people to be more selective — you can only go on one date a day.
While it sort of depletes the numbers facet, it certainly bodes well for those who want to start being more discerning with their love and sex lives. In fact, I was eating a salad in Whole Foods when I messaged him from my phone.
Once, a friend of mine was scouring my profile and told me that I talked too much about what I did and that I didn't sound chill.
Maybe you'll go on fewer dates, but the dates you do go on will probably fare better than they would had you not paid attention to specifics.
I started doing this in the tail end of my dating saga, and it turned out to be a smart move.
Someone really did utter the words "good luck" to me as he sent me off onto the R train, back into the abyss of the internet.
And there were people who thoroughly disappointed me, too, and because I'm a human, there were occasional tears shed in the process.