We hadn't discussed the question of whether we were dating other people, but because he seemed into me, I assumed he wasn't. After about a month, I had a rude awakening: He casually mentioned that he was dating two other women at the same time. I'm just advising you to be skeptical until you have some serious reason to believe he's treating you in a manner that is unusual FOR HIM — rather than treating you in a manner that seems unusual IN GENERAL but is actually his typical M. (Luckily, I hadn't had sex with him, because my two-month rule is in play.) I find that other women often think like I do: If a guy is exhibiting dating behavior that the woman thinks is unusual, she assumes the man is only behaving in that "unusual" way toward HER ... Sometimes, they know what they want, but saying it out loud to a woman may end up with them getting smacked upside the head. So it’s up to the ladies to do the interpretation when men send mixed signals.The problem with the interpretation game is that we ladies sometimes have our judgment clouded by our intense attraction to a guy.
About a month later, my two friends were no longer dating. If you are crushing on a guy, and he tells you this, run.Run far away from him, as fast as you can, and don’t think twice.We were going on two dates a week and e-mailing a lot.He was also making plenty of healthy references to how attractive he thought I was.