Here are some examples of invalidating statements: Everyone is invalidated when they’re growing up some of the time.
Parents and caregivers are human, and therefore may be stressed out and unable to consistently validate a child’s emotions.
You say and do things when you’re upset that you later wish you hadn’t.
Or, you may feel numbed out or confused by your emotions, but look calm on the outside.
Some people are wired to feel things more strongly. If you are biologically predisposed to stronger emotions, you may feel deeply, care about things passionately and be considered more sensitive.
The experience of being physically or sexually abused as a child is inherently emotionally invalidating.
If you’re not wired to be very emotional, this may just slide off your back.
But if you are wired to be more emotional and you are invalidated repeatedly, you will start to feel that there is something wrong with you and your emotions.
The part of you that sensed something was wrong about the way you were being treated had to be ignored in order to survive.
If you were abused as a child, you had to swallow your emotions and had to attempt to deal with them yourself.