” On my good days I found the anonymity enthralling.I was a student of this country I had loved for so long from afar and despite the fact that I could pass a whole day without speaking to anyone, I felt thoroughly immersed and considered it an honour to finally be a part of this whole scene.Here below are just a few tips to become less of a loner in the most beautiful city on earth. You can easily make coffee at home in the morning but push yourself to go out to one cafe on a regular basis.By going in at around the same time each day you’ll start to be recognised as more that just a tourist passing through.the very night I would scroll Facebook and see Italian acquaintances who had said flippantly “ah si, we should meet some time” posting their infinite dinner and party choices for that evening.I remember spending my first Christmas totally alone, feeling closer than ever to the buildings and relics of Rome and yet so far from any intimate human relationship.People are usually standing and mingling so even if you’re alone or in a pair, it’s more than acceptable to chat to strangers. Stuff is going on every night, you just don’t know about it.Some nights you can walk through Piazza Navona and think the city has all gone to bed but in fact, it’s just about knowing where to go.
On my walks there were always families take a ‘passeggiata’, couples fighting or fawning over each other, even the lone walkers seemed to be on their phones cooing to a loved one, “Dai, ci vediamo a casa!I passed my culinary exam at Accademia Barilla, finally conquering the rules and intricacies of Italian cuisine.And I realised that I no longer have to translate in my head – I’m thinking directly in Italian.I was on a press tour recently in Toronto and a woman came up to me after I gave a speech on the experience of creating a life in Italy. I actually did what you did and went to live in Rome but I only ended up staying for three months.” “Oh really? She was relieved, confused, united, thrilled to hear there wasn’t something wrong with her. You probably hang out with your classmates and you have set group excursions scheduled into your free time.But if you’re one of those dreamers who throws everything in, moves to Italy alone and has visions of creating an authentic life here, the challenge of finding a genuine social life with friends you really open up to and care about can be frustrating and seemingly impossible.