Needless to say, this created a heated conversation of why he didn’t invite me to come along with him.It was also a red flag that my suspicions were right – we didn’t share the same level of interest in each other. How much do we spend monthly, annually, in each category? Question #6: How much time will each of us spend at work, and during what hours? Question #9: Am I comfortable giving and receiving love sexually? Question #4: What is our ultimate financial goal regarding annual income, and when do we anticipate achieving it? Question #5: What are our categories of expense (rent, clothing, insurance, travel)? Question #7: If one of us doesn't want to work, under what circumstances, if any, would that be okay? Are we comfortable with the other's level of ambition?
A healthy purpose for a dating relationship is to discern possible marriage.
Question #20: Does one of us have an individual spiritual practice?
Question #13: What place does the other's family play in our family life? If we have out-of-town relatives, will we ask them to visit us for extended periods? Question #14: If we have children, what kind of relationship do we hope our parents will have with their grandchildren? Is it easy for me to support those needs, or do they bother me in any way? Do we belong to a church, synagogue, mosque or temple? If not, would our relationship benefit from such an affiliation?
Will we want to take time off from work, or work a reduced schedule? Will we need to rethink who is responsible for housekeeping?
Question #16: How will having a child change the way we live now?