As online love becomes ‘mainstream,’ it makes sense that the online dating rules need to change to reflect its new popularity.
And it makes sense that ditching the old dating rules and adapting to the new ones may see you having more success online.
Of course, when you think about it, what seems more silly: joining a community of fellow looking-for-love singles, who are introduced to you based on potential compatibility?
Or heading to the nearest bar, feverishly scanning for someone who ‘looks' single, then hoping like mad that a) they’ll notice you and b) that you have something – anything – in common? And the statistics support this: recent research has shown that internet dating is now the second most-common way to find a partner, while as many as 1-in-3 marriages start online.
If you haven’t tried it, probably many of your friends have.
While I may have rolled my eyes about this as a teenager (who didn’t?!
However, a lot of people aren’t using online dating to their best benefit.
One of my recent female clients had only two pictures up, and both were professional shots. It suggests that this is the best she could possibly look, and, in fact, she might be much less attractive.
This can take the fear-factor out of sending a quick message to say hello. Try clicking the ‘Send Smile’ button on a promising profile – it’s a more subtle way to show your interest.
First dates are exciting, there’s no doubt about it.