To preserve the morality of men, a woman must closely monitor how she dresses and speaks and acts.
When abuse does occur, church leaders "counsel" survivors with LDS literature that proclaims that it's better to die fighting than to fall victim to rape.
The women would seek the counsel of church elders, who taught them that what happened was their fault.
This pattern was remarkably consistent in the women interviewed, whether they discussed something from over a decade ago, or just a few years ago.
Everybody had or had heard stories similar to Sarah’s: the abuse would start small, with "lustful thoughts" they were blamed for inspiring.
In the Mormon community, teenage boys and girls are taught that preventing sexual violence is a woman's responsibility.One night my boyfriend was at my apartment and we were kissing and he kept trying to put his hands down my shirt and inside my bra.I realize this is nothing to non-Mormons, but to a Mormon, this is serious business.“While the PR Department of the LDS Church and most leaders would say this advice applies equally to both males and females,” Cragun says, “if you carefully examine their discourse, women are more often told to dress modestly to prevent the men from having immoral thoughts (rather than vice versa).” Similar thinking extends all the way up to BYU, where all three campuses have the modesty standard written into their honor code.All threecampuses' codes encourage other students to call out immodestly dressed women, or report them to the honor code office.