You will get further in less time in finding a relationship if you allow yourself to be genuine.It’s OK to put your best foot forward, and also to be a bit cautious, but have the courage to be upfront and show who you are. Talking too much about your ex: While this information will eventually be shared at least to some extent, it shouldn’t be discussed in detail during the initial phase of a relationship.Relationship coaching or couples therapy can help you learn how to better manage problematic issues so that they are no longer impinging on the health and happiness of your relationship.While most mental health professionals don’t consider themselves to be “dating therapists” or offer special dating counseling, it is often helpful to apply the best practices of cognitive therapy to improve all aspects of dating, from date selection process, to the process of forming a healthy positive relationship, preferably one that meets the needs of both parties and therefore becomes a long-term relationship.You want to get to know the person and each have a chance for a fresh start.Carrying old baggage into a new relationship amounts to clutter.Often people tend to do this if there is a problem with low self-esteem.
It creates the sense of well-being and euphoria that comes with “falling in love.” This might as well be dubbed the period of temporary insanity, because you are not in command of all your faculties; your brain is hijacked by those lovely chemicals, interfering with your ability to think clearly.If fear of commitment is an obstacle, better to work out your patterns (or schemas) in therapy than in your relationships. If you do it, then you need to pace yourself, and be more considerate of the other person, who you are probably leading on. Not being honest about your needs: Pretending everything is OK can work for only so long.If you fall for those who do it, then you need to slow things down and not get taken for a ride (or pursue a different type! Assertiveness is a golden skill for those who are ready for a mature relationship.Let things evolve a bit, as you get to know someone. Avoidance of intimacy: While this one is traditionally men’s domain, women are quickly catching up in the fear of commitment zone.Patience and restraint are required here, even though you may feel pressed for time. Modern society imposes so many requirements and expectations on what makes for a “good catch,” and that makes it hard to sort through whether someone would be a good choice for us.