The talk always begins the same way then dives off in one of two directions. ” is the question I ask — the logical question to ask — when a male friend describes a woman he’s been seeing regularly and exclusively. Sometimes he says, “I don’t know.” It’s as though relationships are the same as good weather, something that just happens to you.
Is being exclusive the same as being someone’s significant other? Old me would have said yes too, but now I think I’m changing camps.
“How we identify ourselves, with words, is important.In the debate over whether exclusive relationships are official relationships, the importance of language can’t be minimized.Stephanie Amada, a faculty member in the Department of Writing, Rhetoric, and American Cultures at Michigan State University, told me that she sees being significant others with someone as entirely separate from being exclusive — because words.Proper paying etiquette has always been unclear, and we often times overthink what message we’re sending based on how we handle the bill.If we ask to split the check, are we sending major friend zone vibes?